Procrastination resources compatible with GTD

[davinia]

Hi! I'm new here :) I've been implementing GTD fairly successfully in the last month though not as well as I'd like (I'm finally going to attempt a truly full "capture" of everything by coming in to work all weekend).

I've been realizing how much I had resisted staying organized previously because making my tasks fully conscious is really scary - it makes putting them off a very different kind of choice than it was when I could shuffle a lot of what I ought to be doing to the back of my mind and have it making me vaguely anxious. Now it's in black and white, crystal clear in front of me, and while it's theoretically off my mind, that only holds true when I'm actually working. There are a lot of times when I look at all the NAs and feel how deeply I don't want to do them, and I choose to either put them off and do something entirely non-productive or to make a choice about what to do based solely on how much I like a task rather than on sound reasons for what it would be best to use my time for. Or I avoid reviewing my lists because they make me so anxious. Then my lists come pouring back into my mind and making me worry because I know I ought to be doing something from my lists. Essentially, GTD is making it impossible for me to not consciously recognize the poor choices I make when I don't use time that should be spent being productive actually working. I can no longer attribute my anxiety or the ways I'd like to do my work better to not being organized because I now *am* pretty organized with GTD - I must admit to myself that there are some other issues going on that are making me unwilling to be truly effective. I want to change that, and aside from just forcing greater discipline on myself I am not sure how to go about it.

I know GTD is not a procrastination tool, though it sometimes helps with my procrastination a little by giving me clear NAs instead of amorphous stuff to focus on (thus lowering my mental resistance). But can anyone here recommend any books or other resources on procrastination that tie in well with GTD? The ones I've looked at often suggest time management techniques that I know won't work well with GTD methods.

Also, a side bit of GTD humor: my mind is so filled with GTD patterns right now that yesterday I went outside to pick raspberries in the yard and thought to myself, "There are so many times I think about picking raspberries and don't because I don't have my shoes on (I never wear shoes in the house). Maybe I need an @ShoesOn list of tasks I might do while my shoes are on." It only took me an instant to realize that this was not the most practical plan, and it would be smarter to jot down a note to myself involving putting a pair of slip-on shoes near my door, but as a theory it amused me no end :)

Thanks for any tips :)

And speaking of procrastination, time to get back to work on some of the NAs on my lists!

--Davinia

[pageta]

Here are some questions that come to my mind:

Are your next actions really next actions or are they projects?

Are some of your next actions better classified as someday/maybe's?

Have you sorted your next actions into categories according to time/place that you could do them - work, home, phone, errands, etc.?

Have you taken on too much? Are there things you've committed to doing that you actually don't have time for?

Once you've answered all of those questions, with what remains, if you're still feeling overwhelmed, get a timer and set it for 15 minutes. Go to work on something and when the timer rings, you can continue working on that same project or switch to something else. You can do anything 15 minutes at a time.

[moises]

Neil Fiore, The Now Habit
Albert Ellis, Ovecoming Procrastination
David D. Burns, The Feeling Good Handbook
Robert Epstein, Self-Help Without the Hype

Changing habits can be a challenging enterprise. I can read a book at one stage in my life and get nothing out of it. I can reread it three years later and find much that is of use.

If you are curious, you will find something of interest in all of the titles I have given. The Fiore and Ellis books did not help me at the time I read them. The Burns book changed my life.

The Epstein book is simplistic, childish, very short, with large type. It promotes B.F. Skinner and behaviorism, of whom and of which I am not fond. The Epstein book can be extraordinarily effective if it falls on fertile soil. Once you've read the Epstein book you can reread the parts of the Ellis book which discuss behavioral techniques.

For the record, I still think the Skinner and behaviorists overreach when they try to explain all behavior, including language. But behavioral techniques do have their limited place and they can be quite useful for extinguishing bad habits and inculcating good habits. Procrastination is a bad habit.

For further reading see my thread titled, "I Work From Zero Base." I describe a method that I have used to get my inboxes to empty twice a week. Processing is not doing. And it is also not procrastinating. By leaving nothing unprocessed for more than a day or two, my procastination has diminished to negligible levels.

None of this stuff works overnight. This is a journey of self-exploration and self-knowledge. We each respond to different techniques and different rewards.

Today has been an extraordinarily stressful day. GTD, behaviorism, cognitive techniques . . . none of them stop bad things from happening. And yet . . . I am more on top of things than I have ever been. I am having more fun than I ever had. Good luck!

[Suziloo]

I've got a huge procrastination habit to kick as well. I've read books about procrastination and none of them have helped as well as GTD. I procrastinated fully following GTD (for roughly the same reasons as you have), until I couldn't live any longer with the anxiety of not getting things done. Here are a couple pieces of advice that have helped me (not sure where they came from, but would attribute if I could):

If you've got a NA that makes your stomach ball up, you need to do some more thinking. Is it really a NA or stuff in disguise? If it's stuff, break it out into NAs. You could also have an emotional resistance to it. Identifying what that is will go a long way towards moving forward. A lot of my emotional or subconscious resistance is along the lines of "if I do this & send it along for approval, that makes more work for me when I receive the feedback", i.e., make changes or move the project forward.

When I actually started my projects/NA lists in earnest (I had a couple of false starts), it was a bit overwhelming. Sure there's a lot there, but I knew there would be. Is it unmanageable? Only if I continue to procrastinate.

I don't think that looking for reasons why we procrastinate (in a book, surfing the web) is a great use of time. I think it's a form of procrastinating itself. Searching for reasons why I'm broken isn't going to give me any satisfaction. I know I'm broken (and in good company ;) ), I just need to find a way to get fixed.

That said, here are my biggest helps:

1. Time blocking: make myself work on a task for a predetermined amount of time (5, 15, 30 minutes - whatever number makes you think that it's a reasonably small commitment), with some reward (usually being able to do one of my fun NAs). Work on the NA for that amount of time - or more if you feel the inspiration - and then claim your reward.

2. Filtering NAs: I work from a home office (read: recluse), so my @home, @office, @phone, etc. contexts are usually always available to me. My lists are too large to be able to look at them w/o feeling overwhelmed. I've added a few contexts so that I can stay focused on a small subset of NAs. One is @today - this is the list of things that I really want to move forward, and usually contains items that I have some resistance to doing. I know that if I accomplish these items my psychic energy will perk up (and that's good for me). Another is @low hanging fruit. These are the ridiculously easy or mundane tasks that I can work on when my brain needs a break. My fun context is @delight customers. These are the things that no one is paying me to do, I do them because I want to and the customer will be (or should be) delighted. These are my 'reward' tasks.

3. Setting work hours: I work from 8am-5pm period. I no longer give myself the option of working nights and weekends. Now that I have a smaller window of opportunity to work with, I no longer have the time to procrastinate.

4. I've decided I can procrastinate later :p

[davinia]

I'm pretty sure that my NAs really are tasks not projects - small discrete physical-world tasks I should be doing and doing ASAP, not someday/maybe - tasks I do generally have time for except on the days where there are a lot of fires - I just *really* don't want to do them :( I have to overcome a lot of anxiety and resentment to get myself to start pushing through my tasks. I'm pretty sure I have enough time to do them, since despite my procrastination I do seem to manage okay. I know some of this is that I'm deeply frustrated and demoralized about many aspects of my job *sigh* So maybe I need to generate some project plans around improving the things that I don't like about where I am just now, rather than focusing on the procrastination directly.

I am hoping to get through the projects (quite small ones but niggling and late) I feel guiltiest about putting off this weekend, after I have finished my big full capture work. Maybe getting those fully off my plate forever will also help.

In the meantime, I think I will try the timer. Thanks for the suggestions!

[davinia]

Suziloo, thanks, I love those ideas! I think I will come up with some motivating-type task categories, and definitely utilize some variant of the chunks of time idea, I think with a timer as someone else suggested.

Interestingly I usually find that when I work during my set office hours is when I most want to procrastinate, I think because no matter how much I get done I still have to be in my office. When I'm here on weekends occasionally, I feel like I can leave whenever I want and so I feel like I should get as much done as I can so that I can leave sooner :) Of course, if I got more done during the weekend I could come in less often on the weekends, but the emotional part of my brain seems to resist this logic!

[davinia]

[QUOTE=moises]Neil Fiore, The Now Habit
Albert Ellis, Ovecoming Procrastination
David D. Burns, The Feeling Good Handbook
Robert Epstein, Self-Help Without the Hype

Thanks for the book reqs and encouragement Moises!

--Davinia

[Desultory]

yesterday I went outside to pick raspberries in the yard and thought to myself, "There are so many times I think about picking raspberries and don't because I don't have my shoes on (I never wear shoes in the house). Maybe I need an @ShoesOn list of tasks I might do while my shoes are on." It only took me an instant to realize that this was not the most practical plan, and it would be smarter to jot down a note to myself involving putting a pair of slip-on shoes near my door, but as a theory it amused me no end :)
LOL!
I'm another procrastinator who grows raspberries and never wears shoes in the house. I thought I would get some garden clogs, but I still haven't gotten around to it. Those raspberries look so good, I just put my shoes on. I don't know if I'll be so eager to get out there when it's time to cut the canes down.

The Now Habit is the book that worked for me.
Also check out this post from 43folders about Cringe-Busting:
http://www.43folders.com/2005/05/cringebusting_y.html

HTH
Pam

[TesTeq]

I just *really* don't want to do them :( I have to overcome a lot of anxiety and resentment to get myself to start pushing through my tasks.
If you really hate your NAs and don't want to do them maybe you are headed in the wrong direction. Maybe the destinations that you are travelling to in your life are not clear? Maybe you have no successful outcome vision for most of your Projects?
Close your eyes and think what's really important for you and why.

[pageta]

If you really hate your NAs and don't want to do them maybe you are headed in the wrong direction. Maybe the destinations that you are travelling to in your life are not clear? Maybe you have no successful outcome vision for most of your Projects?
Close your eyes and think what's really important for you and why.

I agree.

I'm also posting on this thread again to say that yesterday I was "stuck" and procrastinating on everything so I re-wrote my lists (paper system) and made them fresh and shorter as a result of no longer having the completed items on them and it did wonders for my motivation. I think 2/3 of a page is about my limit for not feeling overwhelmed even if most of the tasks are done.

[caneelj]

If you really hate your NAs and don't want to do them maybe you are headed in the wrong direction. Maybe the destinations that you are travelling to in your life are not clear? Maybe you have no successful outcome vision for most of your Projects?
Close your eyes and think what's really important for you and why.


I recently realized i'd been procrastinating big-time on some amorphous writing tasks that were not possible to break down - writing in the early stages must be holistic, it cannot be chunked into "write two pages" - i can write two pages of crap, but what for?! Anyway, I realized I was procrastinating and basically totally unmotivated to do it. However, I'd already committed. Thus, i had to fire myself up.

Normally in this case, I try to self-motivate by visualizing the optimal outcome. What did I want to get out of this assignment? After working on that visualization, i realized i was forcing myself into a "should" visualization of success, what my outcome "should" look like in order for me to "be a success." However what i really wanted was just to have the damn thing done w/ as little pain as possible so that i could concentrate on other things! This was a huge realization as a writer, a perfectionist, and a procrastinator.

Sometimes success = done. Try visualizing done.

Off I go to write!

[TesTeq]

Sometimes success = done. Try visualizing done.
I fully agree with you. Good enough is OK.

[Brent]

For amorphous writing, I've found it useful to create a Next Action that says "Get notebook and pen and spend thirty minutes brainstorming about (story)". That's a concrete, physical action.

[davinia]

I do need to spend some time evaluating what I want out of my job right now. I suspect that clarifying my career goals and my reasons for being where I am (I do have them despite not liking my next actions list items) would help keep me motivated (and therefore less inclined to procrastinate).

[ThomasDerwin]

www.marktaw.com has some fun reading on the subject:

"Get Back to Work":
www.marktaw.com/blog/GettingBackToWork.html

"Getting Things Done":
www.marktaw.com/blog/GettingThingsDone.html

Something to treat yourself to when you take a break.

Enjoy,
Tom

[Desultory]

i can write two pages of crap, but what for?!
So you can start writing! Give yourself permission to write crap. Let it spew all over the page (or screen). No one has to see it. It's only your first draft, but it won't exist until you start.

[ActionGirl]

I found "The NOW Habit" helpful too.

I don't think I had realized before how much anxiety my procrastination was creating. Fiore says something like, "the only thing that reduces anxiety is work."

I'm not sure I like it, but it seems to be true. I can distract myself from my anxiety quite well at times, but working is what makes it go away. And the working isn't usually all that bad. It's the starting that can be excruicating.

[andersons]

> (paraphrase) "Are your NAs REALLY NAs?"

There are many, many people who come here looking for ideas to help with their procrastination problems, only to have their NAs challenged.

Folks, it is possible to have clear, actionable NAs all organized into a completely trustworthy system and STILL procrastinate in doing them!

There are MANY different specific causes of procrastination, and GTD helps with only one of them.

No matter what the specific cause, though, the bottom line is that if our motivation to do a task were sufficiently high, we would do it. When we don't do things, it's because we don't (sufficiently) want to. The 2 main reasons we don't want to are that 1) the task is unpleasant, or 2) any reward for doing the task (or avoidance of punishment) is in the distant future. Of course, if both reasons exist, forget it!

The reward/punishment motivational system of the brain is incredibly powerful and controls everything you do. The only real problem with behaviorism was that it underestimated the complexity, sophistication, and individual differences of rewards and punishments.

Motivation is hard to understand because 1) it is multi-facted and 2) we are unaware of many of those facets. Although you think of your self as a single entity, there are many parts of 'you' with sometimes competing goals. For example, I want to be fit, lean, and healthy but I also want to regularly enjoy myself eating gourmet food. Furthermore, we are often unaware of our goals and motivations. (We are unaware of MOST of what's in our brain/mind.)

The more you become aware of your underlying motivations, the more power you will have to modify them.

I personally resist being 'forced' to do things, whether it's someone else or myself trying to force me. So the strategies in The Now Habit have been very helpful for me. But others here find it helpful to be 'forced' to do things. Each individual has to find the strategy that best feeds the motivation that needs it.

[Diane]

I am afraid I am turning into "that nut that keeps plugging FlyLady", but I would like to mention here that one of FlyLady's basic things is: Get dressed to shoes. Every morning. Every day. No exceptions. If your house catches fire, or you get locked outdoors without your keys, you will be glad you did. (Those aren't hypothetical situations, either - they really happened to people).

[pageta]

> (paraphrase) "Are your NAs REALLY NAs?"

There are many, many people who come here looking for ideas to help with their procrastination problems, only to have their NAs challenged.

Folks, it is possible to have clear, actionable NAs all organized into a completely trustworthy system and STILL procrastinate in doing them!

NA's not really being NA's can be a big problem. Or the problem can be a multitude of other things. That doesn't mean that people don't realize that or that they shouldn't suggest a re-examination of whether the NA's are really NA's. They could be projects, they could be someday-maybe's. Once you've decided they're actually NA's, then you have narrowed down the ways to approach the procrastination. You wouldn't want to overlook something so obvious as having NA's that aren't actually NA's in solving this type of problem, in my opinion.

Action produces motivation. That would probably be the most effective thing I tell myself when I'm procrastinating on actual NA's that need to be done. Otherwise, it may be the amout of time I have, my energy level, etc. that are not appropriate for the particular NA's I'm procrastinating on.

[kewms]

Action produces motivation.

What pageta said.

No, reexamining your NAs is not necessarily a blanket solution to all procrastination problems, but it really can help in a lot of cases.

One of the classic tips for procrastinators is to set a timer and force yourself to work on the project for 15 minutes. You can do *anything* for fifteen minutes, the theory goes, and starting to make progress will motivate you to continue.

The problem I've always had is that on many projects fifteen minutes is barely enough time to sit down and review my notes, so the timer goes off before I've done enough work to get over the motivation hump. For me, the first step in beating procrastination is to break tasks down until they are so tiny that I can't think of an excuse not to do them. Sometimes that's a fifteen minute task, sometimes it's a five minute task. The idea is to make the reward -- for completing that one tiny task -- bigger than whatever risk is making me procrastinate in the first place.

Katherine

[andersons]

What pageta said.

No, reexamining your NAs is not necessarily a blanket solution to all procrastination problems, but it really can help in a lot of cases.

Of course. But this poster has already stated, more than once, that she is sure that her NAs are actionable, yet even when she has the time available, she does not want to do them.


One of the classic tips for procrastinators is to set a timer and force yourself to work on the project for 15 minutes. You can do *anything* for fifteen minutes, the theory goes, and starting to make progress will motivate you to continue.

I too have tried this classic tip, but it does not work well for me for my most resistant actions. I have worked for 15 minutes on something that will require maybe 6 hours to complete, and even after checking off that first tiny, tiny action I did not gain any motivation to do more. In fact, even the 15 minute task was so unpleasant that I avoided the next tasks even more! Action did not create more motivation.

I'm not saying these techniques (breaking down NAs further, getting started, working just 15 minutes, etc.) can't be helpful. Of course they can. But they are not universal cures for everyone's procrastination. It seems unlikely to me that this poster is going to benefit from breaking down her NAs further. She does not want to do them.

[pageta]

I'm not saying these techniques (breaking down NAs further, getting started, working just 15 minutes, etc.) can't be helpful. Of course they can. But they are not universal cures for everyone's procrastination. It seems unlikely to me that this poster is going to benefit from breaking down her NAs further. She does not want to do them.

So what cure are you offering?

[andersons]

I've been realizing how much I had resisted staying organized previously because making my tasks fully conscious is really scary - it makes putting them off a very different kind of choice than it was when I could shuffle a lot of what I ought to be doing to the back of my mind and have it making me vaguely anxious. Now it's in black and white, crystal clear in front of me, and while it's theoretically off my mind, that only holds true when I'm actually working. There are a lot of times when I look at all the NAs and feel how deeply I don't want to do them, and I choose to either put them off and do something entirely non-productive or to make a choice about what to do based solely on how much I like a task rather than on sound reasons for what it would be best to use my time for. Or I avoid reviewing my lists because they make me so anxious. Then my lists come pouring back into my mind and making me worry because I know I ought to be doing something from my lists. Essentially, GTD is making it impossible for me to not consciously recognize the poor choices I make when I don't use time that should be spent being productive actually working. . .

OK, I'm going to take a stab because I identify greatly with what you are describing.

You used the words "should" and "ought to" several times in describing your problem. The book The Now Habit, in my opinion, is great for people with this kind of problem.

You are (I assume) an adult now, living in a pretty free society: you can do whatever you want to do. Of course, you have to accept the consequences of what you do, but do whatever you want! Let me explain.

The thing that has helped me is to change my way of thinking about the actions I'm resisting. The word "should" is not allowed. In the morning, I start by asking myself "What do I want to do today?" And I assure myself that I do not have to do anything that I do not want to do. It's almost like starting out with the plan to play hooky all day. But then I will always start thinking, If I don't do X, I'm not going to like the eventual consequences. So I want to do X for that reason. Yes, it's like some sort of bizarre, pathetic reverse psychology, but for me, it works, and apparently it helps other perfectionistic, anxious, responsible, guilt-ridden procrastinator types too.

So in the morning, I make a list of everything I want to do today. For each thing, I write all the reasons I want to do that thing. Sometimes the reason is mostly to avoid some punishing consequence (for example, if I don't register by the deadline, I'll have to get lots of signatures and pay hefty late fees to register later). But when I feel that I am choosing to do what I want to do, and I know the reasons for doing it, I feel that I am in control rather than being controlled by a list of NAs. (By the way, I do not have to do this exercise every morning or about every action, just when procrastination threatens, whether in general or regarding certain actions.)

Here is an example of how this attitude change has really helped me not to procrastinate on a task. Every week, I create a plan that specifies details that are followed by a number of people in real time the following week. After I create the plan, 6 or 7 people have to do their own jobs to get ready to make it work the following week. It takes me 30-60 minutes to do this task. For a lot of reasons I do understand, plus probably more that I don't, I really hate doing this task! It would be best for the people who are waiting for the plan if I completed it Monday. Tuesday would be fine. Friday is absolutely the last day, but some weeks Wednesday or Thursday might be the last day. If I procrastinate till Friday, people rarely complain, but I have learned that my procrastination really makes life miserable for them. That knowledge has become my reason for wanting to complete the task by Tuesday at the latest. So on Monday or Tuesday I tell myself, I want to complete the plan by this afternoon so that the people I care about will not experience so much stress.

The other part of the anti-procrastination that has worked for me is insisting that I make time to do things I really enjoy. Not just big things like planning a trip or hike, but 'little' things like reading, surfing the internet, socializing, and participating in forums. Life is too short not to enjoy yourself. I was not really making any time for fun; my attitude was that work is much more important than play. By changing my attitude to see play as important, too, I have actually been more attracted to my work and have gotten more of it done. When I consciously make a choice to take time to play, I start to feel a sense of urgency about my work that does not occur when I'm doing the same activities but while procrastinating while I'm "supposed" to be working.

[Instigase]

Great thread folks!

I love the Andersons take on "should get done" versus "want to get done"! It is a much more enlightened way to "envisioning a wildly successful outcome" for a project.

Here are other nuggets that have strucka chord with me regarding this topic.
(BTW they are all Merlin Mann's essays...)

Patching your personal suck
(http://www.43folders.com/2005/01/patching_your_p.html)

Systems, ciphers, and the dirty little secret of self-improvement
(http://www.43folders.com/2005/02/systems_ciphers.html)

Mental dialogues, yak-shaving & the triumph of the “mini-review”
(http://www.43folders.com/2004/09/mental_dialogue.html#more)

and

Does this next action belong somewhere else?
(http://www.43folders.com/2004/09/does_this_8220n.html#more)

[pageta]

Yes, I also love andersons idea about WANTING to do something.

I'm fairly new to GTD and I'm also going through the "oh my goodness! I have so many things to do that I don't want to do" stage. I keep telling myself that there are more of them because I have neglected them by pushing them to the back of my mind for so long and that soon I will be caught up and not faced with so many things that I don't want to do. In some ways, it's nice to have them done.

In other ways, I find that a "bugging me" next action list with all of the things that I want to have done but dread actually doing also helps. They're not immediate next actions, but they're not someday maybe's either. I can walk by those things and not feel guilty because I know they're on my list and that I'm working on that list.

It also may be that she just hates certain aspects of her job and either needs to learn to accept them as part of the job or field she otherwise loves or decide to change jobs or careers. Sometimes when you face things that you have kind of ignored, there is a reason why you were ignoring them. Also, maybe there's an easier way to do those things that she will think of, such as a new computer program which automates a lot of busy work. Who knows.

I think writing out all of our NA's when you start GTD results in a lot of soul-searching and it isn't always pleasant to find what we find. However, by getting out those cobwebs and other unwanted items, the end result is that we are happier for having done it.

[Danny Hardesty]

In total agreement with the "nibble" technique. My workshop in the garage has been cluttered for a long time. So, each time I went out into the garage for another matter I made it a point to clean two things off my work bench.

In one day the work bench was clean!

Good luck!

Danny Hardesty

www.dannyhardesty.com

[KimD]

As a very experienced procrastinator I finally came up with a few things that get me through the worst of my "I really don't want to do this but I know I need to" resistance. (First make sure you DO really need to do it, and that it’s not just a SHOULD...)

I use lots of other tools, some great ones are listed earlier in this thread. But when none of them work, these will. The theme is to go with the feeling of resistance, rather than trying to overcome it. (Think martial arts…)


1. Say *out loud* - "I don’t want to do this I don't want to do this I don't want to do this" over and over and over. It always has the biggest effect when I do it in the whiniest voice possible.

Sometimes I'll then be able to stop whining and start the action, other times I need to whine out loud the entire time.

I sound like a 6 year old having a hissy fit, but it works.

Sometimes I need to change it to "I'm scared and I don't want to do this" or something similar - let your inner whiner take over and you'll know just what to say.

2. Partner with someone. There are many different ways this can work...

- Get someone to be there while you do it. Find someone that is procrastinating something of their own, get together and each of you work on your own action. I've done this meeting at Starbucks more times than I can count. (One pays bills, the other works on her resume)

- If the action isn't portable, (like cleaning out the garage) then finding someone to swap with still works. Example: First they help you clean out your garage, then you help them sort through their tax stuff..

-If there’s no one to ‘swap’ with, find someone to just sit there with you while you do it.

- Another way is to call someone on the phone and have them talk you through it, or, even just have them be on the phone with you (NOT talking), while you do the action.

- You can also use IM's for this. I find it much easier to do something I hate if the entire time I’m doing it I can be IM'ing someone about how much I hate it.
(Remember, I'm only using these tools if my normal 'positive' thinking hasn't worked!)

3. Finally, you can have someone do it for you! Years ago I lost a lawsuit and had to pay the judgment. It ticked me off so much I couldn’t even think of writing the check without being ill. Finally, I handed my checkbook to a friend, and had her write the check and mail it. A simple solution to something I agonized over for days.


Hopefully this helps! Whatever you do, be gentle with yourself - and reward yourself afterwards.

KimD

[andersons]

1. Say *out loud* - "I don’t want to do this I don't want to do this I don't want to do this" over and over and over. It always has the biggest effect when I do it in the whiniest voice possible.
How funny! I have actually done this! not as a purposeful strategy but just being a big whiner.
[laughing at self. . .] I'm going to make sure next time I whine, it's a strategy.

Cool tips, KimD. Except one of them made me shudder:



-If there’s no one to ‘swap’ with, find someone to just sit there with you while you do it.

That's what my spouse does! And guess who has to be the one sitting there? (whining "I don't want to do this I don't want to do this I don't want to do this. . .")
:-)

[dackle]

Davinia, you mentioned that things at work were less than ideal. It could be that your mind wants to focus fully on solving the job "problem", but you are overriding this desire by attemting to fill your time with NAs because you doesn't want to face the possibly unpleasant consequence of leaving your job. This is comparable to a sleepless night. Your rational mind sends you off to bed at the usual time, but your subconscious continues to churn away at a problem, and in fact won't let you sleep because it wants you to wake up and deal with whatever is bothering you. Trying to force yourself to sleep is a form of procrastination -- I'm not going to deal with this right now because I "should" be sleeping. The same applies to NAs -- I'm not going to deal with work because I "should" be doing NAs. Doing NAs, no matter how important they are, are a form of procrastination when you have larger problems because what your mind really wants to do is focus its energies on these larger problems. It could be that once you are happy in a new job, your procrastination will disappear or diminish as well.

[CKH]

How funny! I have actually done this! not as a purposeful strategy but just being a big whiner.
[laughing at self. . .] I'm going to make sure next time I whine, it's a strategy.

Cool tips, KimD. Except one of them made me shudder:

If there's no one to 'swap' with, find someone to just sit there with you while you do it.

That's what my spouse does! And guess who has to be the one sitting there? (whining "I don't want to do this I don't want to do this I don't want to do this. . .")
:-)

Having someone else physically present, but doing "quiet" tasks (or perhaps simply attending to what you are doing) is known in the prof. organizing world as "body doubling." It's especially used when working with "chronically disorganized" people who have trouble focusing on a task unless the body double is there. It doesn't make anyone "shudder" :smile: but rather helps them get started, keep going, and get (things?) done.

If it works for you, terrific!

Cynthia

[andersons]

Having someone else physically present, but doing "quiet" tasks (or perhaps simply attending to what you are doing) is known in the prof. organizing world as "body doubling." It's especially used when working with "chronically disorganized" people who have trouble focusing on a task unless the body double is there. It doesn't make anyone "shudder" :smile: but rather helps them get started, keep going, and get (things?) done.

If it works for you, terrific!


Oh, it definitely helps my spouse if I am the "body double." It makes me shudder because I don't want to be a body double. It is painful and boring for me.

[westwind]

But can anyone here recommend any books or other resources on procrastination that tie in well with GTD? The ones I've looked at often suggest time management techniques that I know won't work well with GTD methods.

--Davinia

The Procrastinator's Handbook (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0802775985/qid=1123051695/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_ur_2_1/002-6945567-2518464) by Rita Emmett

This is a helpful book. The advantage here is that this book is available in both cassette and CD. So if you don't have time to read a book, you listen to it in your car during your commute or while running errands. Rita does a good job on the tape, probably because she often gives seminars. I bought both the tape and the book, so I could refer to the book if I heard something on the tape that I wanted to review. I also wrote my own outline using the book. This helps me master the content.

[Nikita]

Oh, it definitely helps my spouse if I am the "body double." It makes me shudder because I don't want to be a body double. It is painful and boring for me.

I hate being a body double too, though often it's because I need one myself and Person X is not someone I can have do that. I learned to bring things to read or notes to work on in their office, whatever I can get away with. Then I don't mind so much.

Working things through with someone, problem-solving their issue, isn't so bad either, if either they or the topic is interesting (I get too many requests for that). But the condition of my babysitting someone: I need to be able to do my own quiet work at the same time. Lest I kill them out of jealousy.