How do you deal with distant, sporadic agendas?
I have a friend with whom I meet about at least two months or longer. Last week we saw each other, and I promised him to borrow him a book next time we get to see each other.
I wonder what's the most effortless way to keep that commitment: It is not an item I need to review week after week in the weekly review, but if I put it on a list 'things to remember for next time I see him', and as our meetings are usually unexpected, I should remember that my friend belongs to the category of 'there is a list I have to consult before meeting him'. That list sometimes exists, but other times would not be necessary -nothing pending from our previous meeting-, so the habit of checking it is difficult to create.
How would you go about managing a commitment of this kind?
And then there's the direct approach
If I say to someone, or if they say to me, "Next time I see you, we'll ______." there's always a doubt that it will actually happen. Time passes, situations change. What was applicable at the time may no longer apply. So, I don't like to wait until the next time. I'm more likely to throw the book in the mail, or buy and send a copy they can keep (especially if it's Getting Things Done :D ). It's extra effort, but it gets it out of your system sooner. And there's really no downside to being that proactive.