Yes - in what do you find Joy?
Thanks for the shout-out! I do have a "Gives me Joy" list that really does help ground me. I review it at every weekly review and read it whenever I need a smile and a pick-me-up.
But what really helped me at work was a solid review and rewrite of my Areas of Focus. A couple of years ago I took a hard look over a few days and really thought about my job and the responsibilities of the job. I looked over my job description and added in all those other "duties as assigned" which often become the greatest part of a job. At the end of it I had 6 specific areas of focus and a realization that I really love my job. (I think I posted about that at the time, too..) Knowing that makes dealing with day-to-day nonsense a whole lot easier!
Everyone has days, weeks or longer when work (or life) is just a little off. Sometimes you need to get down to basics to determine what you need to do about it. Constant negativity at work is hard to combat with personal positivity. It wears you down and can affect your health and happiness. But if you find those nuggets of goodness and can build on them a plan to not just survive your work day but thrive then the situation is not lost. Sometimes, however, you are best to cut your losses and look elsewhere.
As we've all been sadly reminded of again again the past few weeks, life is too unpredictable. You have to live each day being the person you want to be while you have the chance.
What's your reminder word?
I think you're in the right spot to start changing this because you recognise the problem. What I have found helpful is finding a word or phrase that you start to think when the situation arises. If a colleague tells you something designed to pass you the stress ball, think that thought. When you're working late and suddenly catch that you're doing it because of an unreasonable expectation or stress ball, think that thought. When you get home and find that you're not engaged in the conversation because you're thinking about work, think that thought.
Originally Posted by Barb
Eventually you'll see that you're catching more of those circumstances, and think that thought waaaayyy too often, and you'll do something about it.
A couple of the phrases I have used:
"i am only 1 woman"
"stay above the fray"