I don't think the solution is a bigger louder system that is more in your face.
As has been discussed many times, our lists attract or repel us. Your trick is to figure out what attracts you, and then create a system that has those elements.
I think you are right. I feel like the actions on my list are nagging at me, yelling at me, saying "don't forget about me!". I open my list and I see everything all at once, and it just feels overwhelming, a negative feeling which makes me want to tuck the list away and not look at it.
I dunno, its been a few years since I read GTD. Maybe I need a rehash.