conflicting behaviors - i'm all out of advices to give
While I was giving some friendly coaching to a friend, a tricky situation came up and I really felt a bit stuck in helping with some good advice. So I thought to post it here and see if anyway might have some good ideas on how to deal with it.
She is working (mostly on her own), more than she should. She recently got an order from a doctor to stop working like that because its harming her health.
Taking that into consideration, and because she is aware of her body and cares about it, she made a plan to have a strict working schedule, and to leave always at 7pm.
What happens most of the time, is that at 7pm she wants to go on for a little longer. Most of the times, that little longer becomes 2 or 3 hours more.
I asked her why she was doing this and she said that she loves the work, and that it gives her lots of energy and enthusiasm, and sometimes she even sees it as "free time", because she is doing what she loves.
Still, the day after she feels the negative effects of that attitude and suffers physically and psychologically.
I understand this very well, but don't know how to give advice.. it seems a case of conflicting priorities. Even David said that there is no such thing as a established "border" between work-life balance, each person defines its own attending to how they relate to both parts.