You - bishblaize, TesTeq, StuartHelm - are right and I thank you about.
Practically the situation is the one you highlight. And I'll try to put at work your suggestions.
However, I think, my situation is more related to a political view.
As in these days in the US democrats and repubblicans had the same trouble but different ideas how to afford it.
Anyway the way they found to fix it is again to talk, understand the position of the others, compare each main suggestion like you replied me.
Thank you again