I have this problem. I think it's because my boss is a perfectionistic crazymaker and treats me like a personal assistant. Like this week, I was given the task of writing a memo to the general managers so they can approve a decision our project team made. The memo was signed by my boss and the civil assets representative. Why didn't my boss or the other guy draft the memo? Why do I have to do tasks my boss is responsible for? There's no use asking, I have before and he seems to get really upset and always comes up with a logical reason. Never mind I am behind on all my own work. And of course I got asked to attend the meeting where my boss presented the memo. Why do I need to attend I asked, I need to work on XYZ. Oh, but what if the GMs ask a question I don't know the answer to? The civil assets rep is going to be there, he'll know. Unfortunately my name was specifically mentioned and I had to go, and a one hour meeting took up 4 hours of time. 6 if you include the meeting preparation time.
This is one example of an issue, but it happens a lot and I don't know how to manage it because my boss is usually the cause of this.

Our work policy in dealing with stress is that we are supposed to talk to our boss about it, but I can't do that because my boss is the problem and any time I try to talk about it things don't go well. I can't stand talking to him, seeing him or working with him.