Having trouble at work
I am just starting to get gtd. However I am in a stressful work environment and many of my colleagues offload their stress onto others, they have a range of health issues that appear to be related to work. How do you stop yourself from being engulfed in despair with so much negativity. Any ideas or clues are gratefully accepted.http://www.davidco.com/forum/images/...s/icon_sad.gif
I suggest making an area of focus that is something like "Take care of myself" or whatever resonates with you. Just that much will remind you of the need to protect yourself, but it will also lead to projects and next actions that will help you cope. For example, you might decide to take a walk as part of your lunch break, decide to look for another job, look for a book on stress management, or whatever feels right for your situation.
Hang in there
Don't let others effect you and your well being. It's easier said then done, but it is my best advise. Find a way to stay grounded and in good spirits.
The culture at my workplace has been very negative for a long time but it's starting to turn around. The CEO finally realised how much money the business lost annually because of high employee turnover and the consequent loss of knowledge and momentum.
We've now hired some business coaches to help us instill a new culture and practice. It's still early in the process but it's already helping. One of the key things they've asked us to do is avoid "playing below the line", i.e. negative talk, blame, gossip, all the stuff that doesn't bring a more productive workplace along with permission for everyone to be able to challenge whenever they think someone is playing below the line. Another is "to always assume positive intent", i.e. don't immediately view anything that's said or done as negative.
There's lots more to it and it's a complex web of initiatives, and it's a slow process to turn around ingrained culture. It would not be easy to do any of this alone so I'd suggest you find some like-minded individuals who want to work in a better environment so you can collectively start to make it happen.
At the risk of *really* being perceived as too negative (or maybe I just had too long a day today):
Over the decades and with a variety of employers, I have found that nothing ever really changes. You have to take charge of your life. You have to decide (not just acquiesce) whether the physical, mental, and emotional toll is worth all (any?) of the good things about the job (including, obviously, the money).
I have walked away from a job that paid me more money than I had ever made in my life (to that point) but where I was often eating Pepto Bismol as though it were candy without another job to go to and with no prospects for one. Within just a few weeks, I was physically and emotionally healthier than I had been in months, even though I was unemployed.
It took me years to recover career-wise from that decision. Being unemployed (or under-employed) is not fun; it's not pretty; it doesn't build character. You endure it and, to the best of your ability, move on with your life. It can be done. Life is too short; there is no reason to be miserable almost every waking hour.
I have never subscribed to a "yeah-rah-rah" (cheer-leading) attitude or approach to anything. I realize that I am a pessimist, but all of my surprises are pleasant ones.
One of our colleagues on the forums has a "Joy List" - A list of items that bring them joy. Perhaps you could create your own list to look at and help keep your spirits up if you are feeling the negativity get to you? I wish you all the best with dealing with your situation and really hope that some of the suggestions that you get here might help.
With best wishes
Originally Posted by PeterW
Thanks Peter really good suggestion for a mentor process and the art of listening can be difficult but can be powerful and insightful
Congratulations on your award! It's great to hear that you are finding ways to keep positive and that you are being recognised for your good work
Thanks for your reply. I invested my time in sharing time with positive people over coffee and playing pool at lunchtimes. But I staying focused on my projects and have just recently won an award, yay
Originally Posted by mcogilvie
Originally Posted by escapegardens
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