I'm just saying there may be things outside of your experience that are as valid as whatever works for you. My friend's suggestion was helpful to me so I offered it in that spirit. That shouldn't be threatening to anyone. It's just another idea for people to consider.
I quoted Hamlet because I thought Shakespeare phrased the idea more powerfully than I likely could.
Nothing you have said was threatening, in fact I found where you said "you have to have the conversation with yourself" very interesting. Thanks for the thoughts