You asked, "Could anyone recommend some action lists tailored specifically for home makers? Two chidren - a 3 year old and an infant."
In many ways, homemakers (my wife's one) lives revolve around relationships (kids, playgroups, friends, me...), and you should probably not work against that phenomenon.
First, I'd suggest seeing if some of the "recommended" lists would be useful:
@Agendas--if in Palm, make as a to-do list category; each name is a to-do item, and put the things you want to talk to them about in a note attached to that person's name--good people could be spouse, doctor, people in playgroups you see regularly, etc.
@Church, if you attend and are involved in any way
@Charity, if you volunteer somewhere regularly
@Yard, if you garden or work in the yard a lot
Some key reminder lists that might be useful would be (maybe a memo category called "Things to do"?):
"Things to do with...kids"
"Things to do with...spouse"
"Things to do with...friends"