Hello - I have an area in which I'm really struggling making good use of the GTD skills. It has to do with changing how I do things while I am doing them rather than a project with an exact finish. Probably not many of you are facing exactly what I'm dealing with, but there are most likely other examples (like a teacher or speaker trying to gesture more, using speed keys when you type, ohhh I dunno - being a beauty pagaent contentent and remembering to smile all the time) . Heck, even learning GTD is an example.
Here is the deal...my three year old was recently diagnosed with a serious neurological development disoder. Over the past several months, we have gotten her into a special preschool and set up with various therapists who work on her one and one. She is doing great. (GTD has been a huge help getting all this set up - a big sanity saver). The thing I'm struggling withis that each therapist she works with has given us a huge list of great ideas to incorporate into our day to day life with her. All of them easy and most of them are fun and no one expects them to try them all this week (or even this month), but sometimes it is so overwhelming, my husband and I just don't do any of it.
The other day the occupational therapist was at our house for her weekly session and asked, "did you do any of the homework" and my response was "uh, hmmm, weeeellll, no". I simply just didn't write it down or think about it again after she and I had last talked. And by the end of the session she had 5 more great ideas for us to do.
The various tips seem to fall into three categories.
1) Basic parenting skills that are more important in her situation like getting down on her level when she is trying to say something - not too hard to remember because it is so logical and has immediate pay off - it really does help.
2) Little projects like buying a big bags of beans and letting her play with them - buy beans, organize materials, find time to play with them with her - GTD skills work great here.
3) New techniques that aren't so logical that you work into every day life- give her jobs that require "heavy work" (like lifting heavy things), specific ways to eleborate on what she says to promote dialogue, ways to work on her fine motor skills, etc. There are lots of these.
It is number three that I'm struggling with. The other day I walked out of the grocery store with her and realized I just missed a golden opportunity to have her help put food on the checkout stand which would have been heavy work. I just don't think about them until it is too late..although, perhaps next time we're at the store together, I'll remember.
Any ideas on how to use GTD to raise my intetionality on this issue - just REMEMBERING what I need to do?? Right now, it is an "emorphous blob of undoability". Creating an "@with daughter" list seems a little strange. Maybe I need to pick a "technique of the week" and focus on just that one thing.
Of course, in writing this I'm coming up with part of the solution to my own problem.. .I need to work harder on keeping "vision of wild success" - I need to remember WHY I am doing this and keep that vision of my daughters future positive in my mind...then I'll be more attracted to what I need to do.
I also need to get an idea of my committment level...some parents of kids with autsim go hog wild and their life turns into one big therapy session....other say "I'm her mother not her therapist and I need to maintain focus on the parenting role" and do very little. We need to figure out where we fall in that range.