First and foremost, I hope your mother is doing ok: she is clearly going through a very intensive time, and it’s a huge burden for you to carry as well.
Times like these make everything else melt into the background to reveal the foundational girders of our lives. But as you said, if we ignore the other things in our lives, they will start to remind us by dragging us down.
We are reminded by various authors from time to time to pay attention to our main categories and to make sure we don’t neglect them; otherwise we will start to suffer.
You have had this concept uncompromisingly imposed on you. In the teeth of your overwhelming urge to be with your mother all the time, you still had to pull back, take an overview, and restore the balance. It proves that balance is not a light-weight tuning exercise – it is a fundamental.
I am grateful that my own awareness of imbalance did not come from such an uncompromising event. My central problem was that I had actively devalued some of the things that I value most in life by measuring them in the wrong way.
In fact, since my first post, I noticed something else: not only had I mistakenly assumed that I should only follow financial projects, I had added to the problem by also assuming that everyone else on this site and in the broader world of GTD seminars thought the same way.
So, I inadvertently loaded my assumption with social proof. Therefore at the heart of my thinking there was not only a devaluing of my interests, but also an exaggerated sense that I was going to have to blaze a new and lonely path into the realm of serious personal projects. It made pursuing my own interests feel both risky and lonely.
But, when you think of what drives higher altitude decisions, they usually are not measured by profit – they are essential life questions about who we want to be and what we want the weeks and months of our lives to be like.
I guess it’s a case of keeping in touch with the true values of things in our lives, and, in GTD terms, catching these at our weekly reviews so that the appropriate actions appear on our hard landscapes.
Thanks for sharing your story Mardo.