Marvin,Originally Posted by Marvin7148
First of all, I think that your basic idea is sound. Having a list of "powerful" questions to ask yourself about your goals does a lot to help you think more deeply and constructively about what you want to do.
However, I do have a concern with the questions I've quoted - at least with the way these are worded. What these questions really do is ask me to predict the future, which I can't really do. For example, how do I really know if realizing this goal will make me more secure, or how do I really know if I will be able to maintain my friendships?
There is also the "problem" of the answers becoming self-fulfilling prophesies. For example, the question about having the talent, knowledge, and discipline reminds me of that saying attributed to Henry Ford: "Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right."
A more useful way of posing future oriented questions would be: "In what ways do I think the realization of of this goal will affect....?"
Answering this question keeps you rooted in the fact that your beliefs about the future are just that...beliefs. In addition, the use of "In what ways...." leads to multiple answers, not just one. Once you have those beliefs, the first order of business is to ask yourself "Why do I believe this?" On further analysis, you might see your original belief to be pretty flimsy.
However, let's say for example, you believe (with good reason) that realizing your dream will lead to conflicts with your spouse. The way to deal with that concern is to turn it into a "how" question: "How can I get my spouse's support while I do this?" Or better yet: "In what ways might I get my spouse's support while I do this?"
This mode of questioning helps you take problems that might stop you in your tracks and turn them into projects that will move you forward.