Quick background - I discovered GTD about 9 months ago and am still working on fully committing to the system. I tried implementing it with limited success when I first heard about it, but then fell off the wagon and stagnated for quite a while. I am a gadget freak and love my blackberry for taking notes, but found that I was going numb to to-do lists as they disappeared into the electronic abyss. I've switched to a paper system now, because I am also obsessed with office supplies, and so far I think it's going to work out well.
Anyway, on to the question. I also introduced my wife to GTD, and she likes the idea of it as well, but like me has never really committed to it completely. We have tried to use GTD at home for all our "shared" projects, and there are a _lot_ of them. Ideally, when we really start to trust this system, we'll do our weekly reviews and list-checking together. My problem is that I use a separate system for my own projects, which includes work projects and personal development projects that don't need to go on our shared list. Throughout the day though, I may look at our shared list or have ideas about shared projects and actions that I need to capture. This can get confusing when we both are having similar but different thoughts about project, for example disagreements about what the next action is.
Where do I put these ideas? I've thought of a couple ideas:
1) Put them in a shared inbox and only process them when we are together.
The problem with this is that the inbox will become quite cluttered, and we'll spend a large chunk of our together time doing processing that could have been done individually.
2) Process them myself as usual and input the results into our shared system, to be picked up and modified during our shared weekly review.
This becomes an issue if we are both thinking about the "Landscape front yard" project, and one of us adds the NA "Discuss colors and desired maintenance level together" while the other adds "Stop by flower nursery for inspiration and ideas".
3) Add an action to my _personal_ @wife list, "discuss aspect X of project Y"
This is going to fill up my @wife list very fast.
4) Your ideas??
Our personal GTD systems work out relatively well, although I at least still have major procrastination issues, but so far our shared system has failed utterly. We have different approaches to the projects which may lead to differing NAs and differing priorities, and we each have individual thoughts throughout the day which need to be processed in some way. Can anyone help??